Your Sense of Self
How Does It Feel To Be You Right Now?
The quality of your inner life — your felt sense of who you are — touches everything. It's there in the quiet moments and in the difficult ones. When something is off at that level, you feel it everywhere.
Your Sense of Self
A Healthy Sense of Self
A rich and resilient sense of self is one of the most important things a person can have. It’s what allows you to feel at home in your own skin — present, real, and genuinely alive to your own experience. It gives you a stable place to stand when life is difficult, and the inner freedom to engage fully when life is good.
And it isn’t about being the same person in every situation. You’re different with your closest friend than you are at work, different alone than you are in a crowd. That natural range — the ability to move fluidly between different modes of yourself — is itself a sign of a healthy self. What matters is that these different versions of you feel connected and genuinely yours, that you can move between them without losing the thread of who you are.
When Something is Off
When something is off at this level, that natural flexibility breaks down. You might feel like a different person entirely depending on who you’re with — and not in a good way. Or you might feel rigidly locked into one mode, unable to access other parts of yourself. Or you might have constructed a version of yourself that works well enough in the world — competent, presentable, even likeable — but that doesn’t quite feel like you. You perform it more than you inhabit it. Underneath, something feels absent, or simply unreal.
Or you might just feel hollow at the center — going through the motions of a life that doesn’t quite feel inhabited.
Do you hear yourself?
Listen...
Feeling lost in your own life? Let’s find your true self again.
I know how difficult it can be to make decisions about your life, career, or relationships when you’ve lost your sense of self. If you’re struggling with low self-esteem, feeling misunderstood, or you’re unsure of who you are anymore – you’re not alone.
I’m here to help you reconnect with who you really are, so you can bring your authentic self to every goal, connection, and life transition you face going forward.
Do you hear yourself?
Listen...
Self-Struggles
Many people suffer from an undeveloped or “false” self, which limits one’s capacity for intimacy and hinders one’s ability to handle stress, life-challenges, and tragedies.
Self-Creation
More than you might know, we create and recreate ourselves ongoingly throughout life. Nurturing our imaginative, self-creative processes can enhance vitality and aliveness, meaning and direction, self-esteem, and resilience — among other things!
Just imagine, because….
Imagination is how you make what’s “real” your own — how you experience the world out there, and how you experience your inner world. It can help unfreeze pain and unlock rigid patterns of thought and emotion: your inner experience is shifted from something that happens “to you” to something you can help create. This is often where healing begins. In our work together, we can integrate mindful practices that open you more fully to experience, and imaginative thinking, which loosens the grip of rigid rationality and entrenched emotions. Together, these open doors to experiences that had been closed — offering a new image, a new story for old pain, a perspective you couldn’t reach by thinking alone. The therapeutic relationship is the space where this becomes possible — safe enough to hold what’s difficult, alive enough to let something new take shape. That ongoing capacity to create is where real aliveness comes from.
Reality leaves a lot to the imagination
— Creatively attributed to John Lennon
Frequently asked questions
How do I know if this therapy is right for me?
If you’re feeling stuck in a rut or struggling with low self-esteem, psychodynamic therapy could be for you. It’s a good option if you’re ready to explore your past, understand your emotions, and reconnect with who you truly are.
What if I don’t know where to start in our therapy sessions?
What is your approach to therapy?
My approach to therapy is psychodynamic, meaning I focus on the healing that comes from the therapeutic relationship itself. It’s not a typical doctor/patient dynamic – it’s about creating a space where you can explore yourself honestly and gain insight into your thoughts and feelings.
We’re partners in this process, using methods like mindfulness, neurofeedback, EMDR, and yoga as we work together toward a deeper sense of self-understanding. Whatever you’re facing, we’ll find the tools that work for you.
How often will I need therapy sessions?
How often you come depends on you and your needs. Many people start with weekly sessions, but we can adjust this based on your progress and personal situation. We’ll work together to find a frequency that works for you.
